WHO AM I? ...
Hello, I'm Alerin, a proud non-binary person. I navigate life with they/them pronouns, embracing my identity despite the challenges of gender dysphoria. My journey has been a profound exploration of up's and down's as I struggle to find self-acceptance and understanding, while seeking to align my outward appearance with my true identity.
As I strive for authenticity, I am currently fundraising for top surgery, a crucial step in my transition. This surgery represents more than physical change; it's about feeling at peace with my body and living authentically. Your support in this journey means the world to me, as I continue to grow into my truest self with courage and resilience.
"Being non-binary is such a wonderful part of who I am. It means I don't fit neatly into the categories of male or female, and that's perfectly okay! I feel a sense of freedom in embracing my true self, beyond societal expectations." - Akwaeke Emezi (Leading Genderqueer Author)
What is Gender Dysphoria?
Gender dysphoria is a profound disconnect between one's assigned gender at birth and their experienced or expressed gender identity. It encompasses a range of emotions, from discomfort and distress to profound anguish, stemming from the incongruence between one's inner sense of self and societal expectations or physical attributes. For genderqueer and trans individuals, this internal conflict can lead to significant mental and emotional challenges.
It often manifests in anxiety, depression, self-harm, suicidal ideation and a deep sense of alienation or isolation. The impact on mental health can be profound, affecting self-esteem, relationships, and overall quality of life. Seeking understanding and support from both medical professionals and the community becomes crucial in navigating and alleviating the distress associated with gender dysphoria, fostering a path towards self-acceptance and well-being.
"I use to wish that I would be struck with breast cancer, simply so I'd have a valid excuse to get a mastectomy" - Alerin (on the topic of their gender dysphoria)
Doctor Gregory Mak Explains G.I.D
Dr. Gregory Mak’s speech focuses on his experience in treating patients with Gender Identity Disorder - from his initial motivations to enter a rather stigmatized field, the people he has helped in his journey, to the social, biological and psychological treatments to alleviate these individual’s gender dysphoria - he provides a medical insight into this condition that outlines the journey from lost, to found, and everything in between. He outlines how, before we can provide adequate social support, we must view these people under a new light - just as he did, all these years ago.
How i combat my Gender Dysphoria Currently
I myself personally choose to bind, "But what is chest binding?" you might ask. Simple. Binding is a technique used by many transgender and non-binary individuals to flatten the appearance of their chest, aligning their physical presentation with their gender identity. There are two primary methods: using specialized binder clothing designed for this purpose or utilizing safe binding practices with tape.
Binders are typically made from breathable materials like spandex or nylon and are designed to compress the chest tissue evenly. They are worn snugly but should never restrict breathing or cause pain. Alternatively, some individuals use medical-grade tape to achieve a flat chest appearance. This method requires careful application to avoid skin irritation or injury, and it's crucial to use tape specifically designed for skin use to minimize risk.
Both methods serve as temporary solutions to alleviate gender dysphoria, offering individuals a sense of comfort and affirmation while they pursue more permanent options like masculinizing chest surgery.
Binding Complications
Long-term binding, whether using specialized clothing or tape, can lead to various health concerns that individuals should be aware of. Prolonged compression of the chest can restrict breathing and lead to respiratory issues over time. The constant pressure and friction against the skin can cause irritation, chafing, and even skin breakdown, particularly around the edges of the binder. Binding can also contribute to overheating, especially in warm climates or during physical activity, which may exacerbate discomfort and increase the risk of heat-related illnesses. Additionally, the continuous compression can put pressure on the ribs, potentially causing bruising or even fractures with prolonged use.
I have been binding for several years now starting around 6 years ago. Everyday I face the struggle of dealing with the pain, risk and annoyance associated with having to bind my chest for long so often. It is my future goal to be afford M.C.S. or "Top Surgery" to be able to live my life comfortably without the continued stressors of binding my chest daily.
Are binders dangerous? What is it like to bind? Ray, a trans guy, and Nneka, who is nonbinary, share their experiences of wearing a binder, their tips, and how to use a binder safely—according to safety guidelines from the LGBT Foundation.
HOW TO "CURE" GENDER DYSPHORIA
While gender dysphoria may not have a definitive cure, medical interventions like top surgery have proven transformative in alleviating its mental and emotional strain for many individuals. Top surgery, specifically tailored to align one's physical appearance with their gender identity, can significantly reduce the distress associated with gender dysphoria. By altering the chest to better match their affirmed gender, individuals often experience a profound sense of relief, comfort, and alignment between their body and identity.
This surgical intervention not only enhances physical comfort but also contributes positively to mental health, boosting self-confidence and reducing anxiety and depression linked to dysphoria. While each person's journey with gender dysphoria is unique, top surgery represents a crucial option in the holistic care and support of genderqueer and trans individuals seeking to live authentically and comfortably in their bodies.
How Will M.C.S Impact ME?
Getting top surgery will be a transformative step in my life, bringing me a profound sense of happiness, confidence, and comfort in my own body. It will help me finally align my physical appearance with my true self, freeing me from the daily struggles of self-hate and gender dysphoria.
This surgery is not just about aesthetics; it’s about reclaiming my body and my peace of mind. By eliminating the health risks associated with my current situation, I will be able to live a healthier and more fulfilling life. Top surgery will empower me to embrace my identity fully, allowing me to face the world with a newfound sense of joy and self-assurance. It’s a vital step towards my overall well-being and the life I deserve to live.
How Much Is Masculinizing Chest Surgery?
Masculinizing Chest Surgery, often referred to as top surgery for transmasculine individuals, can be expensive due to several factors involved in the procedure. The costs typically include surgical fees, which cover the expertise of the surgeon and their medical team, anesthesia fees, hospital or surgical facility fees, and the cost of pre-operative consultations and post-operative care.
Additionally, the price may incorporate expenses related to lab tests, medications, and surgical supplies. The variability in costs is influenced by factors such as geographical location, the specific techniques used, and the complexity of the individual's case. Beyond the direct surgical expenses, there are often indirect costs such as travel to the surgical center and accommodation during the recovery period. Given these factors, the total cost of masculinizing chest surgery can be substantial, often ranging from several thousand to tens of thousands of dollars, making financial support crucial for many individuals seeking this procedure to alleviate gender dysphoria and achieve alignment with their gender identity.
What Am I Asking For?
I am reaching out with a heartfelt request for your support as I embark on a deeply personal journey. As a non-binary individual, achieving alignment between my gender identity and physical body is essential to my well-being.
I am currently in the process of fundraising for masculinizing chest surgery, a significant step towards alleviating the gender dysphoria I've faced. The costs associated with this procedure, including surgical fees, aftercare, and related expenses, are substantial. Your generous donations will not only help cover these expenses but will also contribute to my overall health and happiness. Every contribution, no matter the size, makes a meaningful difference in my journey towards living authentically and comfortably. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for considering supporting me during this pivotal time in my life.
“We as gay people get to choose our family and the people we're around. I am your family. We are a family here.” - Ru Paul
How Can You Help?
The success of the Alerin Project greatly depends on the support and generosity of individuals like you. There are several impactful ways you can contribute to our mission. Firstly, by sharing our website with your network, you help spread awareness and reach more potential supporters.
THANK YOU for your support!
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